Breaking up is hard to do.
A cliche, but true.
Sometimes, though, the only way forward is to leave something behind. You gotta break away from everything holding you back and be…you. Whatever that is.
Don’t panic, wonderful readers, I’m not breaking up with Steve or you. But I am breaking up with all the “shoulds” I’m truly sick of.
I am a Creative (with a capital C…that’s right, a capital C). With that comes all sorts of scary stuff. Like not seeing the world like everyone else. Like not wanting the same things as everyone else. Like not doing the same things as everyone else. Like taking big risks and sometimes falling down. Like getting back up and doing it again.
That’s not to say I don’t have obligations or toe the line in lots of ways. I get my kids to school and practice on time. I have a strong (almost too strong at times) series of beliefs about right and wrong. I keep regular business hours, eat three meals a day (most of the time) and try to workout. There are definitely ways I conform, especially on the outside.
But the older I get and the longer I do this (whatever *this* is) the more I break away from what everyone else is doing and the happier I become. I make the rules of my life, along with Steve and the boys. We don’t have to be like everyone else.
I broke up with the conventional office and the regular pay cheque a long time ago.
I broke up with the idea photographers have to have a studio, and the idea that working moms have to have a nanny.
I broke up with the notion you can’t have your cake and eat it too.
I broke up with the pressure to be a super woman.
I broke up with what it means to survive scary shit and the notion that a life without ovaries is less satisfying.
I broke up with the contrived checklist of success too many people subscribe too (married by 28, kids by 32, house in the country by….blah, blah, blah)
I broke up with the part of my family that was toxic and sad while staying close with the rest.
I broke up with the idea that my self esteem was hinged to what others think of me.
It is so hard to break away from everything you thought you knew, or everything you were supposed to do. But do it.
Snap it, bend it, break it….walk into the life you want for yourself. It’s worth it.